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After Margaret, 57, revealed that both she and Jackie Goldschneider, 48, had been in contact with Vanessa amid their feuds with Luis’ wife, Teresa Giudice, 52, Vanessa backed Margaret’s account of their communication and shared why she did not mention Luis, 50, in her new book, Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist’s Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing From Toxic and Manipulative People.
“It was all after Bo Dietl put two fake clients in my practice who were pretending to be the victims of domestic violence that we began to connect,” Vanessa told In Touch Weekly on October 29, noting that they were not friends and exchanged nothing more “than niceties.”
As RHONJ fans will recall, Luis was accused of hiring Bo to investigate the cast amid season 13. However, he denied the claim, and Bo insisted he was hired only to conduct a confidential investigation into the ex-girlfriend — not the cast.
Luis was also accused of hiring Bo to spy on Vanessa by enlisting “clients” to go into her therapy office and question her about their past relationship. In fact, Vanessa filed for a restraining order against Luis in regard to the matter before it was shut down in October 2023.
Vanessa, who dated Luis from 2018 to 2020, months before he struck up a romance with Teresa, went on to react to the claims of a potential cast reboot coming to RHONJ.
“I never like to see anybody’s career get affected. It makes me sad for anybody that would have a loss of wages,” she said. “So, I hope that anybody from the show can manage to sort of rebrand themselves and continue with all of their businesses and that they flourish.”
As for Vanessa’s new book, it focuses on her dating history.
“I wrote the book because I noticed that there was a disconnect between people who had gone through narcissistic abuse and those who have extricated themselves from cults,” Vanessa explained. “The book is designed specifically to fuse the concepts of narcissistic abuse and cult abuse.”
While one might assume that Luis’ name is mentioned in the book, Vanessa confirmed the two of them have “civil restraints” against one another.
“So, neither one of us is going to be disparaging the other,” she stated. “That is just not something that either one of us can do. So, I’m not going to be doing that in any form.”
“The book is really bigger than any of my experiences. It’s a lot of compiling of data regarding my clients, a lot of evidence-based articles that I’ve read a ton of information on cults and domestic violence,” Vanessa continued to In Touch Weekly. “So, it’s really not a memoir. It’s not about me.”
Vanessa then confirmed that she never reached out to Luis amid her work on the publication because “it has nothing to do with him.”