Penn Badgley explains why dating ‘Gossip Girl’ co-star Blake Lively was a ‘struggle’

   

Penn Badgley admits that dating Blake Lively was a “struggle” while they were filming “Gossip Girl” together back in the day.

During his appearance on Alex Cooper’s “Call Her Daddy” podcast Wednesday, the “You” star — who played Dan Humphrey on all six seasons of the hit teen drama — talked about how his on- and off-screen romance with Lively and her character, Serena van der Woodsen, was hard to separate.

“There are many differences between film and television. One of them is that when you do a film, you do it once. And you kind of give it your all and then you move on — whether you want to or not,” Badgley, 38, told host Cooper, 30.

Penn Badgley and Blake Lively at the 2008 Teen Choice Awards.

During his guest appearance on “Call Her Daddy,” Penn Badgley explained why dating co-star Blake Lively was a “struggle” while filming “Gossip Girl” together. WireImage

Penn Badgley on the "Call Her Daddy" podcast

The “You” star, who played Dan Humphrey on all six seasons of the teen drama, talked about how his on- and off-screen romance with Lively and her character, Serena van der Woodsen, was hard to separate. Call Her Daddy

Penn Badgley on the "Call Her Daddy" podcast

He explained the difference of moving on after filming a movie versus shooting a TV show. Call Her Daddy

Badgley further stated that when you shoot a TV show, “you’re doing it constantly.” 

Due to how successful the CW Network series became, fans began associating him with his character.

“What starts to happen when you’re in this one role for a long time — the aspect of celebrity being a part of it, a huge part of it — there is not enough separation, I think, for anybody,” he explained.

“You’re seen as this person, you’re called their name out on the street. You also constantly have to be that person at work.” 

Penn Badgley on the "Call Her Daddy" podcast

Due to how successful the CW Network series became, fans began associating him with his character. Call Her Daddy

The cast of "Gossip Girl" in 2007

Badgley, who was in his early 20s during filming, said he didn’t have the “emotional maturity to understand how to differentiate” himself from his role “in terms of self-worth.” THE CW

Penn Badgley and Blake Lively on the set of the TV show "Gossip Girl" in 2012

Lively and Badgley dated on and off from 2007 to 2010. WireImage

Badgley, who was in his early 20s during filming, said he didn’t have the “emotional maturity to understand how to differentiate” himself from his role as Humphrey “in terms of self-worth.”

“What people seemed to think of Dan seemed to be what people thought of me,” he said.

Lively, 37, and Badgley dated on and off from 2007 to 2010.

After the actors split, they remained cordial on set.

Penn Badgley and Blake Lively on the set of the TV show "Gossip Girl" in 2010

After the actors split, they remained cordial on set until the show ended with Season 6 in 2012. FilmMagic

A selfie of Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds

Two years later, the “A Simple Favor” actress tied the knot with Ryan Reynolds. They share four kids. Blake Lively / Instagram

Penn Badgley and Domino Kirke at the Giorgio Armani RTW Spring 2025 fashion show in 2024

Badgley married Domino Kirke in 2017. They have a son and are currently expecting twins. WWD via Getty Images

“They’re professionals,” a source told Us Weekly at the time. “They’re still good friends and hang out on the set.”

Two years later, the “A Simple Favor” actress tied the knot with Ryan Reynolds on a South Carolina plantation. Lively and the “Deadpool” star, 48, have welcomed four kids together.

Meanwhile, Badgley married Domino Kirke in 2017. The couple share son James, who was born in 2020, and the “Half Blood” singer, 41, is currently pregnant with twins.