Teen Mom stars Catelynn Lowell and her husband Tyler Baltierra have revealed why their daughter’s adoptive parents made the decision to "block" them.
Catelynn and Tyler, both 33, placed their firstborn daughter Carly, now 15, for adoption in 2009. In a January episode of Teen Mom: The Next Chapter, Catelynn revealed that Carly’s adoptive parents, Brandon and Teresa Davis, had recently decided to cut off all communication between the two families — even though they initially opted for an open adoption.
Now, in the most recent episode of the MTV series on March 27, Catelynn and Tyler provided more information on Brandon and Teresa’s decision.
“Brandon and Teresa straight up told our adoption counselor, Dawn, ‘Yeah, I had to block her [Catelynn] for my mental health,’ “ Catelynn said during the episode. “And I was like, ‘Your mental health, your mental health?’ I mean, it was like anxiety. I literally felt every emotion come up of when I hugged [Carly] in the hospital and told her bye.”
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Catelynn went on to claim that Teresa “told Dawn to tell us that we’re not allowed to send gifts anymore because it’s uncalled for. She said, ‘But tell them they can’t tell anybody I said that.’ And I said, ‘Well, f--- now, I’m saying it. I’m spilling it from the rooftops.’ “
“You have my kid, you can’t take my story, too,” Tyler added.
Catelynn also claimed that Teresa told their adoption counselor that she wanted a “very sincere apology,” to which Catelynn said she replied: “You? You need an apology? For what? For me putting the truth out about how you are as a human and what you did to us. I deserve a f------ apology.”
Catelynn, who now shares children Nova, 10, Vaeda, 6, and Rya, 3, with Tyler, additionally claimed that some of Teresa’s current qualms with the situation stem from the fact that Carly refers to Catelynn’s other three children as her sisters.
“Carly’s always said, ‘This is my sister.’ So I thought it was an okay thing,” Catelynn explained later in the March 27 episode while sitting down with podcaster and TikToker Jordy Cray. “So I just went with it. Teresa said, ‘The word 'sisters' just really gets me.’ “
“It doesn’t sit right with me,” Tyler added. “Should we say birth sister? What would you prefer? And she literally didn't really have an answer.”
Catelynn went on to share that their “main goal” for discussing the situation publicly is to ultimately let Carly know that they “never stopped trying" to have a relationship with her.
“She deserves to know that in my opinion,” she said. “Also, it is bringing awareness to everybody that is involved in adoption.”
In a previous episode of the series, Catelynn revealed that the sudden and unexpected loss of communication with Carly had given her “adoption PTSD,” despite the fact that she has done a lot of work on her mental health.
"It was difficult. For the longest time I was like, 'I think I'm pretty healed from my adoption trauma.’ I've done lots of therapy, worked on it really hard. And then, when all of this happened, I found myself in a really bad place, like adoption PTSD, for a few weeks to a month where it was just like randomly crying out of nowhere, [dealing with] anxiety and sadness,” she said.
"I think it's important that I'm open with my kids," Catelynn continued. "My kids would see me crying and ask me, 'Why are you crying?' And you don't know what to say. I told her, 'I just really miss your sister.' "
She added: "I'm open with all of them about it. Thankfully, my kids do help me, too. I have other things to do and I can't just be a blob of a mess forever. I have these children that I have to show up for, that I have to take to do things."
