What Ralph Pittman Confessed to RHOA Producer About His Divorce From Drew Sidora

Drew Sidora's estranged husband spilled new details about their "extremely messy" split on RHOA.

If there's one thing The Real Housewives of Atlanta's Drew Sidora and estranged husband Ralph Pittman can agree on, it's that their ongoing divorce has been anything but peachy. 

Well over a year after the exes began legal proceedings to end their marriage in February 2023, Ralph gave producers a blunt update in RHOA Season 16, Episode 4. "This divorce process has been absolutely ridiculous," he said in a confessional. "It's long and extremely messy."

Ralph's one goal, he added, is "to make sure I have at least minimum 50/50 custody" of their kids, Machai and Aniya. (Drew also has a son, Josiah, from a previous relationship).

Drew Sidora at a Dinner With Bevy Honoring Cynthia Bailey at Thompson Atlanta – Buckhead on March 05, 2025 in Atlanta, Georgia; Ralph Pittman attends the "Spider-Man: Across The Spider-Verse" Atlanta screening after party at Allora on June 01, 2023 in Atlanta, Georgia. Photo: Derek White/Getty Images; Paras Griffin/Getty Images

Drew Sidora opens up about her coparenting relationship with Ralph Pittman

Literally speaking, Ralph was actually outside with Josiah, Machai, and Aniya, running football drills, when Drew joined them for an amicable family moment. Once they scored some alone time, the estranged couple discussed the importance of co-parenting peacefully.

"I'm just happy that we can co-exist without it being, like, you know, dramatic," Drew told Ralph, who was still living in the basement of their familial home, or the "lower level penthouse," as he dubbed it.

"Ralph and I are better co-parents than we were as a married couple," Drew added in a confessional. "I try to keep it cute for the sake of the kids. I don't know what Ralph and his legal team have up their sleeves, so I have just tried to take it one step at a time and save court for court, and when we're with the kids, make the best out of it for them."

What Drew Sidora and Ralph Pittman have told the kids about their divorce

As Drew shared in the March 30 episode, their court order stipulated that she and Ralph are "not to discuss the divorce at all with the kids," something she’s generally on board with. 

"I'm honestly not ready to talk to the kids about it," the RHOA 'Wife explained. "It will make it more real, and then, of course, having to deal with the aftermath of that is pretty scary."

Their children might already know more than they may think, though. After Drew said she observed "little changes" in Josiah, Ralph revealed that Machai "brought [him] an article" that said they're "getting a divorce," along with other messy, private details and accusations.

Drew Sidora and Ralph Pittman attend the Atlanta screening of Lifetime's "Line Sisters" at IPIC Theaters at Colony Square on February 10, 2022 in Atlanta, Georgia. Photo: Getty Images

Why Drew Sidora called Ralph Pittman a "narcissist"

One point Ralph took issue with from the aforementioned news articles was Drew's "crazy" claim that he's a narcissist. When a producer asked her to defend her point, well, she had to "look up the definition" on her phone, first. After reading off that a narcissist "may lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others," she confirmed, "I definitely feel like Ralph fits the bill. He lacks EQ."

Back in their front yard, she assured Ralph that he could "just own it" because being narcissistic isn’t "a bad thing," to which he hit back, "If you believe it, I'm not even trippin'. If that's your experience of me, then that's your experience. And I do apologize about that."

After Drew noted that him "apologizing is a big deal," he cleverly replied, "Narcissists can't apologize. I'm just gonna let you know. I know the definition."

Drew Sidora and Ralph Pittman discuss why their marriage "didn't work out"

Able to share a laugh in that lighthearted moment, Drew told Ralph that they "need to start communicating more." Adding that "the judge's order may not be in the best interest" of their family, she offered, "Like, if you want the kids, I will gladly give you your kids."

Though Ralph agreed they could "definitely do somethin’ like that," he, on the other hand, thought the court order, which also stipulated that he live separately in the basement, was a "really good" thing.

"I know you love being in the basement," Drew told him. "This is the life you wanted. You wanted to be able to go where you wanted, when you wanted…" When Ralph interjected that "it's not that," she gave him the opportunity to elaborate. 

"I would say it's, you know, the respect," Ralph explained, adding that he always knew he "wanted a family" after they got married in 2014. "The only thing that I care about is my kids."

Responding that they'll "forever be family," Drew continued, "I understand why it didn't work out, and I just want to make sure the kids are good. So, even though we have court, I'm not trying to, like, fight and destroy you."